Interracial marriage in america has increased greatly in the last few decades. Interestingly enough the topic of interracial marriage also comes up in the bible in a few instances. The first being the Moses as he married Zipporah who was said to be of a darker complexion than Moses (refer to book of Exodus). And initially she faced some opposition from Moses family.
Interracial marriage has primarily been relegated in previous generations to those who were on the margins and were willing to test the social norms. Older generations had racist stereotypes and close minds to allowing their families to be open to people of a different race unfortunately. Over the years many of these social barriers have been broken down fortunately. And now interracial marriage is more common than ever. As younger generations break down social barriers and foolish traditions that previously stopped such practices. In 1958 only 4% of the population approved of Black-white marriage as opposed to 96% today according to a Gallup poll. Clearly the shift in attitude and accepted social norms between those times and now represents significant change!
Studying the communication patterns and rules within family made me think about my own family a great deal and how they relate to each other. Particularly in relation to how rules and metarules are used and enforced. My family has very specific rules some that are spoken and some unspoken. The interesting thing is that much of what the book discussed I saw in play within my own home. Their is an extremely strong element of secrecy and quiet within my immediate and extended family and individuals do not discuss many subjects openly. I believe this is an unfortunate rule within our home as I believe it restrains a great deal of closeness and intimacy. I feel that much relational closeness and openness is sacrificed by the rule and metarules that surround the tradition of secrecy within my family. This is a great personal disappointment to myself and other family members who wish to change this tradition. Unfortunately it is steeply rooted within multiple generations, a point that was also brought out by the book extensively. Family traditions span many generations. Both good and bad traditions!
I believe that family and the importance of good communication shows itself evident strongly in the story of Samson. Samson was a very blessed man with all kinds of strengths and talents granted to him divinely. Unfortunately the communication and closeness between Samson and his parents broke down.
By biblical in the book of Judges Samson grew up in a functional family in Israel, but as he grew older it appears he no longer viewed their advice and wisdom as worthwhile. This was unfortunately the beginning of Samson’s demise as he soon fell in love with a Phillistine woman named Delilah. Samson utterly refused to listen to his parents and insisted that he must have this woman. Little did he know that Delilah would betray him later on and rob him of all his God given power. Samson would eventually spend the rest of his days in a Phillistine jail being used like an animal to grind wheat. Until eventually he would die collapsing a Phillistine temple. A tragic end to what could have been a much happier story had he listened to the advice of his parents!
Had the communication between Samson and his parents remained open, perhaps this tragic end to a great life could have been avoided. Families today can gain valuable insight from Samson’s interaction with his parents. The importance of open communication between parent and child cannot be underestimated! So many heartaches and troubles could be averted in family life if successful communication was practiced. Keep the communication lines open and avert many problems and increase family relational happiness!